Receiving the Gifts of the Season with Dr. Judith Greer Essex
Black Friday indeed! What a designation. I hate shopping and am easily overwhelmed by crowds and commercialism.The list of gifts to purchase and wrap at this time of year can too easily feel like a burden and a chore. Not to be a complete curmudgeon, I should be clear. Although I hate shopping, I love finding the “just right” gift for someone. I love to bring a moment of surprise and delight in my dear someone’s eyes.
If finding the right gift is a challenging part of the holiday season. Receiving is just as hard. One year, when my daughter was on an impossibly tight budget I said, “Please don’t spend money on me, I don’t need anything.” And she replied, “I can afford this. Don’t deprive me of the fun of finding things for the people I love.”
It dawned on me once again, that gifts benefit the giver as well as the receiver.
- On one side make a list of presents you receive and the hidden gift within it. For instance a book might be housing the gift of knowledge, or beauty, imagination or delight…depending on the book, of course! Allow your metaphoric imagination to inform you.
- On the other page, make a list of the gifts you would like to give to your friends and family. Not the objects themselves, but the meanings you would like them to convey; gifts of memory, love, comfort, delight or wonder. Then imagine simple objects or small experiences that could carry and convey these messages.